1 Samuel 18:28-29
But when Saul saw and knew that the Lord was with David, and that Michal, Saul’s daughter,loved him, Saul was even more afraid of David. So Saul was David’s enemy continually.
Let’s face it ladies, in-law relationships can be difficult. In this case poor David had to face the fact that his father in-law wanted to kill him in fact Saul attempted to kill him several times. No matter what Saul did though, David maintained his stand as a godly man. He didn’t allow King Saul’s behavior to cause him to sin.
Hopefully you have a wonderful relationship with your in-laws but if by chance you don’t I would like to encourage you today to be the woman of god you are supposed to be in spite of their behavior. Be the lady God has called you to be and ask Him for the strength to do what you need to do in order maintain a godly attitude when they are around.
Now, maybe you are the “in-law” and you are just “trying to help”. I would encourage you to ask God before you say or do anything, especially as a mother in-law toward a daughter in-law, if what you have to say or do is from Him. There are more often times that being the example to our daughter in-laws vs. speaking our example is the right thing to do. If you are in a situation where you feel as though he or she isn’t right for your child then pray for them and love them, do your best to understand where they have been and maybe why they are struggling. Love has never hurt a relationship and prayer is the best gift we can give anyone. Don’t destroy the opportunity to be the best example you can be as a woman of God to your son in-laws and daughter in-laws. Obviously if it is a dangerous situation – get your child out of there, but make sure you are not just over dramatizing the situation. Trust me I have been a dangerous relationship before so I know they exist and there are times a relationship has to end, but don’t be the cause of a relationship having to end.
I would encourage you today to ask God to give you wisdom in all of your relationships. Ask Him today if what you are saying and doing is from Him or you. Make sure you are not just responding out of your own hurt or jealousy. Ask Him to give you the tolerance you need for your situation and for the wisdom to know when to speak and when to hold your tongue. It is far from easy if you have a strained relationship but God will bless you for it!
“First we make our attitudes. Then our attitudes make us.” Dennis Waitley