Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your wrath.
It is inevitable that there are times in our lives when we get angry, even Jesus got angry but the key is for us to be self controlled when we are angry. When we get to the point that we are no longer in control of our actions or words because of our anger it is sin. Too often things are said and done because someone has lost control of themselves and a lot of the time the thing that shoves you over the edge isn’t even what you are really angry about but whoever happens to be that lucky person standing there takes the blow for everything you have bottled up inside. Are you an angry person or a calm person most of the time? If you feel you are angry most of the time it could be time to figure out what it is that is causing it before it destroys you or those around you.
I know some people have a tendency to let little things build up and build up and then they explode. Some people are just constant little firecrackers going off all the time over every little thing (that usually means there’s an underlying problem from the past that hasn’t been dealt with). The key is to learn to control your anger instead of your anger controlling you and destroying everyone and everything around you. John Maxwell once said, “If a person doesn’t govern his temper, his temper will govern him.” God never intended for us to live in constant fear or constant bubbling over anger, He intends for us to live with His peace and love controlling our lives so others will see Him when they look our way.
The other day my two granddaughters were having a day and they started arguing over everything. One of them is 5 and the other 3 so the arguments didn’t always have to make sense they just kept going like the energizer bunny until finally I asked, “Where are those sweet little attitudes toward each other that would make Jesus happy?” Expecting an answer back that I would have gotten back from my children when they were small such as, “yes maam” understanding I was saying “stop arguing” I was quite shocked and couldn’t help but laugh when instead the five year old looked at me and said, “Under this mean face!” Well, that made sense I guess. The question is; how often is your testimony hidden by your “mean face”? Whether it is a perfect stranger or your family, what face do they see most often, Jesus love and grace or your mean face?
I would encourage you if you struggle in this area to seek counseling today, if you live with someone like this I would encourage you to seek God and ask for His grace in the situation. If you or someone you love need counseling please check out the American Association of Christian Counselors at www.aacc.org and click on “Find a Counselor “in your area. If you are dealing with a spouse that is out of control I would encourage you to read the book “Boundaries in Marriage” by Henry Cloud and “Captivating” by John and Staci Elderidge so you can gain strength in remembering who you are in Christ, it will help you help without losing yourself in the situation. The best is yet to come but you have to pursue it!
Quote: “Character is what you are in the dark.” D.L Moody